Have you ever heard of this syndrome? We're talking about what refers to some kind of retroactive jealousy and concern for feeling jealousy when you know your partner's sentimental and sexual past.

Rebecca's Syndrome

A little healthy jealousy of the partner never hurts. We have all tried it at least once in our lives. The important thing is that it is a healthy jealousy that does not become unhealthy and that will ruin your relationship with your partner. And in fact, the lives of both. When we talk about retroactive jealousy, so without any basis, it can be devastating.

The name derives from Alfred Hitchcock's film. A widow marries for the second time, until the ghost of his dead wife Rebecca shows up and tries to separate the couple. This form of jealousy disturbs relationships and leads couples most likely to break up.

How to know it?

Suffering obsessively requires details about past emotional and sexual lives. He makes constant comparisons between himself and his ex-partner, asks for information, details, wants to know more. When talking about this issue, the person appears upset. Everything comes as a result of the imagination and this does not allow the couple to live free of the bond or love of the moment.

What to do?

Admittedly, the partner has had a past. And there's one or more ex's. If we talk about it, we should always do it calmly, because until now it is a story that belongs to the past. Try to always find the positive sides of current history, avoiding comparisons. Don't underestimate retroactive jealousy. If necessary, a psychotherapy course can be of great help.