"Eros Resurrection" is an in-depth psychological, cultural and anthropological exploration of the erosion of eros and the various ways to make it part of our daily lives again.
General information about the book In her book The Resurrection of Eros, Esther Perel discusses difficult issues, facing the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our search for a secure love is in conflict with the pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of the daily with sexual desire and explains what it is to make lust become part of our lives again.
During her nearly 35-year career as a couple therapist, Perel has treated hundreds of couples who have lost their passion. They really need and are open to each other, but their sensuality has faded. So what's going on and what to do in these cases?
In this profoundly original book, Perel explains that our cultural tendencies for equality, solidarity, and absolute chastity are all in antithesis to the erotic desire both men and women have. The poetics of sex often come out of the framework of being correct and never apply the rules imposed by society. It thrives on power games, unjust gains and in the space between the self and the other. Sex can be really exhilarating, playful, even poetic, but first we need to bring out of the bedroom the ideal of equality and family emotions.
On the one hand, the book shows why the daily routine stifles passion and makes couples feel like in a cage, on the other hand, with its vision, Esther Perel, aims to free, seduce, and 'provoke them.
It is an extraordinary book, combining prudence, humor, simplicity; a book that sheds light on a multitude of emotions that will transform the way we live and love.
The "Resurrection of Eros" openly opposes one of the most revered institutions of all time in human history: marriage without sex [...]
The New Yorker
Asking if sex exists after marriage is just as serious as asking whether life after death exists and its burden can be measured by the level of distress it may cause at a dinner party. Esther Perel tries to answer this question.
Pearl seals fantasy and play and offers today's couples a rich and unique experience.
An elegant sociological study, complete with numerous literary and anthropological references.
Esther Perel is one of the New York Times best-selling psychotherapists and authors. Today, she is one of the deepest and most original voices in dealing with couple relationships. She is fluent in nine languages, runs a therapeutic studio in New York, and is an organizational consultant for hundreds of companies around the world. She has participated in two Ted Talks talks and her speeches have been followed by more than 30 million viewers. Her two books "Neither the First nor the Last" and "The Resurrection of Eros" (both brought into Albanian by Pegi Publishing) have been translated into more than 30 languages.
Also, she is the producer and narrator voice of Where Should We Begin? and How's Work ?.
Anyone interested in more information can follow Esther Perel on her Instagram page @EstherPerelOfficial or her EstherPerel.com page.
Excerpts from the book
1) When we love, the idea of knowing everything about each other makes us happy. But desire needs mystery. Love narrows the space between partners, while mystery drives desire. While routine makes intimacy stronger, quite the opposite can be said for eroticism. It thrives when there are mysterious, new and unexpected elements. Love means having something, desire means wanting to make it your own. In love man seeks something accessible, while desire is related to something elusive. We care more about the passion that will characterize desire in the future than how it was in its infancy. But as couples get used to the comfort of their love, they often forget to ignite the flame of desire, even forgetting that fire needs air.
We use intimacy not to feel lonely, but to create the distance needed for eroticism, we must renounce the comfort our partner offers us and accept to feel more alone. Our ability to accept this distance and the lack of security it brings is a necessary condition for maintaining the desire and interest that exists within the couple.
3) But the poetics of sex often come out of the framework of being correct, because it thrives when partners play for power, when roles are overturned, when there is inequality, authoritarian demands, manipulation by seduction and refined cruelty.
4) But eroticism aims to get out of itself. When it comes to eros, we trample on cultural taboos. Those standards that we so earnestly adhere to during the day are exactly what we like to break at night. This serves as a kind of space in which we can easily play with our taboos. Erotic imagination has the power to go beyond reason, beyond social rules and obstacles.
5) Fantasies are like mirrors. We hold them in front of us to see what's behind. Thus, we come to see images of ourselves that we would not be able to see. When we engage in a relationship, we exchange our freedom with security; while eroticism paves the way for us to return to this freedom. Imagination allows us to endure the boundaries of reality.
6) The degradation of the sense of romanticism and the fading of desire do not occur because of the contamination of love by aggression, but because of the inability to maintain the necessary tension between the two.
7) The reason why it is difficult to desire to be kept alive for a long time is related to the fact that there are two opposing forces: freedom and commitment. So it's not just a psychological or practical problem, it's also a systemic problem. And that makes it harder to handle. This problem belongs to that category of existential dilemmas that are both intractable and inevitable.
Title: Eros Resurrection
Original title: Mating in captivity
Author: Esther Perel
Translated by: Erdi Ibro
Genre: Guide books
Publication Date: February, 2020
Number Of Pages: 292
Price: 1000 ALL