Throughout our lives we have learned so much, we have learned how to build skyscrapers, we have learned how to build bridges that go from one place to another and rockets that go to the planet Mars, but we have never learned a basic thing, how to love yourself.
What we learned was the opposite. We learned that we are not good enough, we are not beautiful enough, we are not smart enough, we are not weak enough, we are just not good enough. And it's not our fault. Not being enough sells. Itâ??s a big business called â??How can I make money by making you not feel good enoughâ?.
Iâ??m not trying to tell you not to look beautiful, not to lose weight or not to become smarter. Do all this, but do it for the right reasons. If you want to look beautiful, then do it because you respect yourself. Your clothes and the way you take care of yourself are the way you present yourself to the world.
If you want to lose weight, then do it because losing weight is actually good for your health. Go to the gym, exercise, not because you hate your body, but because you love it as much as you want the best for it. Study and expand your knowledge not because you are not smart, but because by learning more you can become successful.
Something very important that you need to apply in your life is to put yourself first. Not because you are selfish, but because you understand the importance of choosing yourself over anyone else. Think this way. If you have had the opportunity to fly on a plane, you must have heard how you are instructed to put on your oxygen mask first, before helping others. Yes, you need to put on your oxygen mask before helping your parent, sister or brother, partner or partner, or your child. For some, it may seem normal, for others, selfish and crazy!
The truth is that putting on your oxygen mask first does not show a lack of love or care for others, on the contrary, it shows care and love for yourself. Because if you run out of oxygen, you will not be able to help anyone else. This is the kind of thought you should have in your life. You need to learn the new habit of loving yourself first.
In this way you show others how you want to be treated, how you want to be treated and respected. If you donâ??t take care of yourself, if you speak ill of yourself, others will do the same for you. Remember, you are a mirror to the people in your life, so you better give the right example.
No one taught us how to love ourselves because it is not something that can be learned. We learn how to love ourselves by being around people who love us and loving others. But when we lack good examples of love, we must create them.
cordially,
Kei Hysi, master's student in Germany
