Each of us thinks in our own way about marriage. On the one hand there are people who are very enthusiastic, because he is one of the goals they have in life (they think this especially when they are single), while on the other hand there are people like Brad and Angelina, who are completely in love, but do not worry about them made this official.
If you are in a consolidated and serious relationship, you should definitely get past that key point: the discussion about marriage. Do you believe in marriage, do you both want to go this step together? Many couples talk about marriage just before putting on the rings, but even at this stage there may be a slight tingling sensation that creates some kind of unexplained embarrassment. It is not that in these cases there are recipes, but what you need to know is how to have such a necessary conversation, but at the same time also feel good after it.
Make sure - do you want to marry him? First of all, you need to find the answer to this question within yourself, and neither in any relative, close friend nor from him. Any kind of pressure, any form, any fear, of any society or anyone - are not good reasons to decide on marriage. Ask yourself: is this the man I want to grow up with? (or at least try)? Is marriage to this man what I love most? If after these questions, there is no doubt and if you are going to get married because you love this man, then it is the right time to start the discussion with him. What if you have doubts of any kind, talk to a professional or someone you know who can give you reasons to stay.
Have a quiet discussion: The way you start the conversation is quite important because it makes all the difference. Starting something like "I thought I'd spend my part of my life with you" might work (it's more important if you're in a long-term relationship - because it creates a pleasant, humorous situation).
Find a quiet place that evokes love. Telling your boyfriend that you will spend the rest of your life with him can be a romantic conversation - no one doubts that. But do not overlook the place where you will have this conversation, because the memory of it will always be fresh. There are thousands of ways to start a conversation like this, but to make it as healthy and memorable as possible, you need to complete all the elements.
Never say never. When communicating, you should not use absolute expressions or phrases like "never" and "always" - they can scare him. This is an unwritten rule, but very important.
Do not think that he will not marry. If there is any reason why he may have doubts about the marriage (if he is divorced or if he has spent a childhood with divorced parents), then be careful with this part. Do not consider marriage to be the happiest solution for all people - he may have something else in mind, for married life and cohabitation. Start the conversation with the fact that you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then you can go to the fact that you can both feel good even under an institution like marriage.
Do not return to that conversation. Once you understand that you want to live with each other and after you have had this conversation, then it is best not to go back to them. He needs time to plan the proposal, but also not to feel pressured after that discussion (get the ring ready, ask permission from parents, plan the wedding for yourself… let your partner do his own thing.