You are very right to be distrustful of someone who has once betrayed this reflection even according to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
Researchers have surveyed people in long-term relationships, for their history of betrayals. Among those who had been unfaithful in previous relationships, 30 percent had also betrayed their current partners. This, compared to only 13 percent of those who had never betrayed previous partners. This ratio stands for both men and women and is supported by previous studies. Researchers have come up with what they call the "threshold effect."
When you betray once, committing such an act again may seem like a small thing, says study co-author Frank Dattilio, a clinical psychologist in Allentown. But this does not mean that traitors can not change their behavior. It should be remembered that full 70 percent of those who had betrayed in the past, were faithful in the current relationship.
And how do you know that a traitor can now be trusted?
Talk to your partner about the betrayal - like when he committed it against you, or someone else and see how he will react, says Dattilio. If your partner goes through that topic and behaves as if you have no right to worry about it, you may have reason to worry, he says. This is a sign that the partner does not value loyalty much. But if your partner is open about what happened, admits it was a terrible mistake, and seems frankly broken about it, then you may know that he takes betrayal as seriously as you do, says Dattilio. And you have a strong reason to believe it again.
