Tony Selimi is an Albanian from Gostivar, Northern Macedonia, who is reaping success in Europe and the US with his consultations, trainings, books and documentaries. He is an expert in behavior, emotional intelligence and the psychology of business success.
However Selimi has a very difficult and inspiring story. In the show "Rudina" on TV Klan, two years ago he confessed that in addition to bullying against him, he was sexually abused as a child. He has shown through tears who was the first person he told about this bitter life experience.
" At the age of five to six. The person has been, the person my parents trusted the most. The person who worked at my parents's restaurants. I have written about how the degree of abuse and manipulation of the child at that age comes. This has not been in the attention of my parents. Many things happen, parents do not know. I have written that parents, mothers, fathers, but also children have a voice at that age. The problem with us is that most parents believe they know more than their children. "They do not give children the freedom to show their parents a trauma in which they can catch it at that moment , " Tony said.
He said he told his parents about it too late.
" Whether you are male or female, a sexual trauma at a very young age you live not only with fear, but also great shame. You are afraid to show the reality of yourself, because Albanian values â??â??are strong. When you are with a traditional family, the fear is even more than the tradition. You grow up with that fear while some of us are training, doing things to heal ourselves.
At the age of 28 it happened that I blocked this event by myself. The human body has the measure to block the memories that hurt him the most. He goes on with his life, but he knows something is wrong. The abuse that happened in the war, when I was on the streets of London or when I saw a child being abused by my parents I was anxious and overly harsh. I wondered where it came from. On my first job in America I met a man on social media. He looked me in the eye and said "I am not selling you anything, but you are a man who has a lot of pain". He asked me "do you want to know this". I told him. He took me on a spiritual journey and hypnotherapist and I saw the memories of that thing as if I saw you. I was unconscious at the time while he was recording with tapes. When I came back I was sweaty. He told me “you have a trauma, but listen to this with a man who trusts him and is family ”. I went directly to Switzerland. I have the big sister there. "It's the first time I've opened my heart to a 28-year-old." he expressed.
In a Skype connection today with "Rudina", Tony showed that he is happier than ever. He introduced his partner Todorche Stamenov, a cardiologist in London, with whom they crowned their love in engagement. Tony has shown how he is acquainted with his partner and the happy life he has with her.
Tony Selimi: We met in 2015, I was at my nephew's wedding from Switzerland to Macedonia and in the first week of this moment of my life, I was in Ohrid with my grandchildren. During this time we got to know each other through social media and started chatting. The meeting took place without a wedding in Skopje.
Tony and Todorche have made a clip in the Caribbean, thus formalizing their love affair.
Rudina Magjistari: Why did you fall in love with each other?
Tony Selimi: The first time we met in Skopje was an incredible moment. Because I work and with the spirit world, I heal people. The moment we met the soul of Todorche's mother who had passed away 8 months ago was present near me and I started listening to the messages of his mother's soul and this created a great friend beyond Todorche because his brain is on the side of science and not spiritually. In those moments a very confident man, became a small child who started crying because by the time we met, he was in the emotions of his mother's death.
