An analysis of divorces in the US showed that almost half of couples split up because of unrealistic expectations. Misconceptions can arise due to the active work of hormones in the first period of intercourse, or as psychologists say, the period of chemistry. This stage can make people blind and only after that, they will realize that their partner is not as ideal as they thought.
Statistics say that chemistry in a relationship is not about love, it is about passion and attraction.
During the study, scientists asked more than 300 people to answer the question of what chemistry means in a relationship to them. The results speak for themselves: only 9% of men and women associated this period with "love". Answers like "biological reactions" and "mutual desire" were given about 3 times more.
You do not know how you really feel about a person.
As it turns out, we can divide love into 3 distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment, according to Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University. The first stage, which we are used to calling "chemistry", is nothing but the work of estrogen and androgen, the female and male hormones, which are based on biological motivation for reproduction.
Subsequently, it may turn out that the expectations of both partners were wrong.
Only later, when the hormones have calmed down, will you understand how you really feel about each other. You may decide that your partner is not as perfect as he or she seemed at first.
You can continue the passion longer.
It is possible to keep the passion alive in a relationship, even after the chemistry period. Try to act like it's one of your first encounters. Hold hands more often, focus on the loving touch and create time for the partner. It's simple but effective.
