Maybe you are in a relationship or have been together for several years. Whatever the case may be, there are some important questions to ask yourself and your partner if you see that your relationship is destined to go too long. Are you planning to get married? If so, what are the reasons for getting married? What are the partner's reasons? Are you ready for a life dedicated to each other?
To answer these questions, you need to know yourself and your partner first. Several relationship experts - one of whom Patti Stanger, clinical psychology Dr. Dara Bushman and psychotherapist Jason Eric Ross, put together a list of essential things a partner should know before getting married.
It's not a comprehensive list, but consider it as a guidebook before you enter a new chapter in your life.
Love it or not - and how many children
" If you're not in the same line [about children], then that's a big hurdle," says Millionaire Matchmaker's Stanger, "because you will never be in the same position."
" If you have already had this discussion, then you are well on your way. Sometimes these things are understood or discussed naturally, just be open. "
Financial situation - how you will manage your money
" The number one cause of divorce is disagreement about money, their mismanagement," Stanger noted. "Ross, a psychotherapist in NYC and Florida, explains: "you will spend it, manage the money together."
How you get along with others - relatives, friends and going out with them
The way one treats other people also speaks volumes about the relationship in the couple. Whether the relationship is good (or rude), whether you talk good or bad about your friends, pay attention to this point. "Family and friends, involvement with them, can be the most important factor to consider, " Ross said.
How do you like to touch it
This may sound silly, but intimacy is the main difference between a romantic and a platonic relationship. Sex, smoking, kissing and "touching" really do matter. "You can not fully connect if you do not have physical contact," said psychologist Bushman.
Relationships go through "winter" and "summer", including physical intimacy. Being very comfortable with each other physically is very important for lifelong connection.
What you like in crisis cases
All couples go through critical points, career-related concerns or even health problems. What you need to know is how your relationship works in a time of crisis. Stanger says it's not ideal if you want to avoid the problem, raise your hands up and turn your head to the other side. " It shows the inability - or willingness - to deal with emotions and solve problems. No one is perfect. In such cases, you should also know to seek specialist advice. "
" Being willing to undergo counseling, for me, is a sign of maturity and readiness ," Ross said. "I believe people who seek therapy do so because they want their relationship to be healthier."
