We have days when we are not at our best, with or without reason. These are the days when we may say words that are not well thought out, but which can have a negative impact on relationships. Especially if we are by nature repetitive.
For this reason, we are highlighting 6 phrases that you should avoid in a relationship. Better bite your tongue or count to 10 until your anger subsides, and then respond to your partner.
Phrases that devalue your partner's feelings
When your partner is expressing how they are feeling at a certain moment, phrases like “Oh, how absurd” or “How annoying you are” are not appropriate at all. We are not comforting our partner, but rather underestimating their feelings. In this way, they will feel isolated, unhappy, and this will affect your relationship. Instead, try to understand what is bothering your partner.
Phrases that talk about indifference
If one partner doesn't know what's going on with the other, it means they're headed for a breakup. Don't say words that show indifference. Listen to yourself and discuss how you feel with your partner.
Comparison phrases
Never compare your partner to your friends' partners. This should only happen when the comparison is in their favor. Instead of taking someone as an example, focus entirely on your partner: their positive things.
Phrases with generalizations
Try to avoid phrases that contain generalizations like "always," "never," and "constantly." By using these words, you blame your partner for yesterday's, today's, and tomorrow's problems. It's much more effective to focus on the present, look for a solution together, and let go of the accusatory stance. Talk about your feelings. This helps your partner to listen and understand.
Words that destroy your partner's self-esteem
All people without exception need a stable self-esteem, and words that degrade it are traumatic for everyone. If you say phrases like: "You call yourself a person?" or "Who will love you?" or "No one but me will love," they will destroy your relationship. Sooner or later, your partner will go to someone who loves and appreciates him as he is. Is this your goal?
Threatening phrases
"I want to break up," "I'm leaving you," "I'm going back to my mother." If you don't have a strong reason to say these things, never say them for two reasons. First, it's a manipulation that aims to get something from your partner, and second, these words can lead to a breakup. This may not have been exactly what you wanted.
