Random answers
Here are random responses (from Reddit) that women gave to the question: "Are you having the 'best sex of your life' with your current partner?"
"No. And that's normal, because the best sex of my life gave me so much emotional drama that it ended in divorce."
"My husband is the best sex I've ever had. I am convinced!"
"Yes. I'd be lying if I said there weren't specific things I enjoyed more about my previous partners than my husband, but overall my husband is the best sex I've ever had."
"Sex with my husband is beyond imagination. It's just too good. I don't even know where I am in the relationship anymore.”
"I married the man who least wanted to have sex with me because I didn't want sex to be the center of my life."
"I've been with my partner for six years and he's in the top three on my best sex list."
"Our sex was good at first, of course. Was it clever? No. It is now.”
"My current partner is not the one who gave me the most orgasms, but he is the best in terms of chemistry and mutual desire."
"No. Sometimes it's exciting, sometimes it's boring. Also, a million miles away from being the best of my life, and that's normal.”
"My ex was the best sex of my life. We had sex seven days a week. But we didn't agree at all about other things. So even though sex with him was fascinating, I honestly wish I had never met him."
"I personally can't figure out if I've had the 'best sex of my life'."
Being good in bed: technique and intimacy
The elements that make up the "best sex of your life" vary from person to person. However, there are some key elements that are usually part of such experiences. Thus, Emily Morse argues that the best sex involves high degrees of the following key elements: foreplay, anticipation, sexual confidence, adventure, and shared pleasure.
Two key aspects of being good in bed are knowledge-based technique and emotion-based intimacy. Technique refers to physical factors such as when, how and where to touch your partner, as well as mental factors such as when, how and what to say to your partner. Emotion-based intimacy is more complex and involves deep closeness, associated with positive feelings of mutual belonging. Lack of intimacy is often associated with bad sex.
Sexual technique can be learned and improved through experience and personal study. However, intimacy is not something to be learned, but to be developed through greater closeness.
